I-it gets better at uni right?

hahahaHAHAHAHABWAHAHAHAHA, only way it gets better is if your looks got better.

this user got it right, it's basically high school on steroids. oh but everyone is also as smart as you, so if you were like me and your greatest trait compared to other people was intelligence in hs then now you have to be in a hs environment where you are average intelligence but everyone else is also better looking than you and better socially.

dont be like me and fall for the meme that 'everything will be better in college'. the truth is college has been even worse for me than hs since at least i had friends in hs. now i had tfw no gf feels still but also not loser friends on top of that. brace yourself op.

Not really. I don't talk to anyone I went to uni with. I managed to keep one friend for about 2 years while I was still in college, but dropped contact after. Whenever I think about him I remember embarrassing shit from the last two encounters like stuttering n ignoring what he said during graduation, and seeing him outside of a class one time but not recognizing him n doing this thing where i was tilting my head tryig to figure out who he was n I almost ended up at a 90 degree angle walking towards him before I caught myself

I'm going to be alone forever aren't I

Yes. :).

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Being alone in dorms is way worse than being alone at home. Everything there is so bland and there's nowhere to go. I pace around my house a lot during the day, but I can't do that in a dorm. It's just endless rows of white walls and doors and the same set of chairs and tables everywhere you go. If you pace around your house, dorm life is absolutely maddening bordering on sensory deprivation.

this user hit the nail on the fucking head. this is the main reason why I hate school compared to home. being stuck alone in a 1 year prison for a year is fucking hell. it's basically solitary confinement for a year.

Only if you try. I spent uni addicted to Jow Forums, bitter and lonely, despite actually having a few friends. You have to push yourself to try.

It'll be worth it. Live without regret.

Just spice it up by ODing on meds and fall asleep, if you wake up congrats you have won this round, if you dont, well your fucking dead.

I don't recommend going there but if you have no choice at peast try to be a bit social and hitting the gym.

it can but you have to put forth an effort. if you were lonely or spergy throughout high school and spent 4+ years feeling liek an outcast ofc itll be hard to get over it just because youre in a new setting but thats exactly what you have to do. wish i had a better answer but you really need to find motivation yourself. if you are dorming your first year never close your door and dont say no to anything or anyone in the first few weeks barring shit like hard drugs or criminal activities ofc from people in your dorm. freshman are going to be desperate as fuck to make friends so theyll likely give even the wierd awkward kid a chance. also learn to drink if you havent already

>It gets better at uni

Sort of. Uni is by far the best chance you will ever have in your life to get a gf and/or get laid, but if you're unattractive and/or socially inept you won't have any of that.

t. my exact experience

Go out and invest your energy in people ;)
You can do it user, meeting new people is a chance to become someone else and to grow up

senior here. i commuted the past three years. all i did was go to class, then go home and do homework.

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girls are lvl 100 at 18-20 while guys are lvl 100 late 20's

It can get better in uni if you try. Talk to people and leave your room, or at least leave your dorm door open. First few weeks are critical; thats when everyone talks to eachother and are friendlier. Make connections now and it will serve you later. It was much better for me there than high school. Are you American? Will you be living in the dorms?

Well said. Listen to this user they are 100% correct

These people are exactly right, though I personally would consider hard drugs.
If you think life in university is bad, just know that for me, and a lot of others, it is good as it gets - not guaranteed to be good, but holy shit is life after bad. I loved it, because I got to schedule my classes where I could sleep in and take classes that fascinated me. I had more social opportunities than I had my entire life before and my entire life since - not that people didn't often treat me poorly, mock me, avoid me, or other such, but that everyone gave you a little more of a chance because people were in a new environment with new people.

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>tfw 5 years in uni and didn't really make friends or gfs
>tfw it's too late now

It got a lot better for me, uni was the best time of my life, but I put in quite a bit of effort to go out and meet with people, at least at the start. Keep in mind, you will never get an opportunity quite like this ever again - everyone's still just a kid who wants to have fun, everyone's new so they're all friendly and eager to make friends, everyone's there for the same reasons as you. Just make sure to talk to people at the start - you'll find something in common, and having that connection is invaluable.

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Should I live in the dorms for the first month if I want to try to be social? My apartment is like a 5 minute walk away from the campus.

you could just hang out on campus and in other people's dorms to be social. Having your own place is much comfier

>it gets better in high school user
>it gets better at college user
>it'll get better when you have a job user
And here I am still alone. The truth is it never gets better for our sort.

>if you were lonely or spergy throughout high school and spent 4+ years feeling liek an outcast ofc itll be hard to get over it just because youre in a new setting but thats exactly what you have to do

This is the problem though. If you didn't develop adequate social skills during school then you will spend your time at uni developing said social skills rather than enjoying the fruits of them which is what you should be doing.

It can get better, but you can't just do the same things you've always done and expect the new environment to change things for you. You need to approach things differently in combination with the new environment. Day one introduce yourself to people in your dorms, see if you can scope out parties. Start looking into clubs or organizations that interest you. Hell, if you're struggling you can even look into joining a frat (not my personal style but it can definitely help people). Work out, even if only once in a while - the endorphins can help your confidence and sociability. Make casual chatter with girls in your class but don't overdo if she seems disinterested. That's about all the advice I can think of. Good luck user

High school I was ugly and the closest I got to a girl liking me was one randomly telling me she liked my shirt

College I've had girls actually straight up call me cute. There are legit thousands of girls on tinder on larger universities too, so you can slowly work on upping your game. Even if you're awkward as sin, once you fail enough times you *should* be self aware enough to start seeing the patterns of what you did wrong (if anything, girls on tinder can be retarded).

Then you can translate your tinder game into real girls once you're confidence is higher. Walk up, have a brief conversation.
>hey do you know where (building name) is? I'm new and kinda lost
Chit chat. Let yourself feel nervous. Avoid spouting retardation and focus on keeping conversation flowing, pay attention to natural endings.

Basically just level up your social game over time. No one gives a shit in uni, why should you?

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in my case life in uni got even worse, because at school i had at least old childhood friends and wasnt so lonely. in uni i dont talk to people at all. that probably damaged me and and increased my autism level

possibly? work is harder but gf mode is so easy its sad desu

>it gets better at uni right?
uni is shit. start developing your skills, you have access to the internet, any kind of information is avaiable to you if you have the patience to learn

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Not if you expect a miracle to happen. Nobody is going to drop the best friends you never had, a pixie dream girlfriend and the adventure of a lifetime in your lap.

Change isnt going to come just because you wish for it.

You need to get out of your comfort zone. If you're a sperg who walk around with large amounts of spagheti in your pockets, I would advise againts trying to hit on girls untill you're more comfortable in social situations and better at reading people, especially in these metoo days.

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This. Women get exponentially more desperate at they get older, once they get to their late 20s/early 30s they will throw themselves at any single man around their age that isn't a complete weirdo.

Holy shit user why dont you start networking

Do not live in the dorms, but spend time in them, hanging out. If that apartment is you alone, you can actually invite people over to hang out without dealing with the bad parts of dorm life.

It doesn't ever get better in and of itself.
New opportunities open up. If you are incapable or simply unwilling to take advantage, opportunities are meaningless. That's why there are many posts here saying things can get better if you put in the effort.

Well dont be a commuter duh

>I-it gets better after graduation right?

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>tfw this is me
>tfw i know my life will still be shit after i graduate college

fuck

Likewise, I even transferred to a better University after getting my associates degree thus ridding myself of the few people I'd actually bothered befriending in college.

Yeah man even retards like us have a place, easy to join any group through common interests/clubs. Did rock climbing and made friends there, became friends with my giggle plant man and he gave me more giggle plant friends

haha, well have fun suffering

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