I don't believe that two adults can genuinely love each other, which makes the bond inherently flimsy; not a good investment to make - emotionally, financially, spiritually, mentally
It's an extraordinary gamble to take - why take it? It's like this fake thing that both parties know can break any time. It's kind of retarded.
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>I don't believe that two adults can genuinely love each other
They can, they just have to be much more similar to each other than it is expected in society.
There is a completely deluded idea that "opposites attract". Or at least trying to apply it to love is deluded - it might work for purely physical attraction.
If this was scrapped and people went for those who are nearly identical to them, love could become common.
I have sex with my gf so she will make me food
Men are capable of love, women are not. They are perpetually children.
love exists as much as anger or happiness exists, it's fleeting
>If I can't achieve or acquire something intangible like love I'm going to claim it doesn't exist in order to assuage myself.
thanks for posting to Jow Forums
Suck Ass, Gay Eunuch
>mfw asexual
feels comfy man
Have a relationship, incel
Just cuff every h* you see. One is bound to stick around
>I don't believe that two adults can genuinely love each other
Sure they can, so long as neither of them are you.
Sexuality is technology
>There is a completely deluded idea that "opposites attract"
Kinda. You need to have similar interests and mindset but opposites kinda do attract. My aunt and uncle. She is super outgoing and controlling and he is chill and laid back. Total opposites but they work. There is alittle truth
>I don't believe that two adults can genuinely love each other
It requires tons of trust and experience seeing each other at their most vulnerable.
>not a good investment to make
You're shielding yourself from vulnerability by insisting that it is not worth investing. This attitude will ensure that you will not let a person actually love you.
Unironically true if you read my response to OP
It is fleeting as much as the seasons change. If the season is perpetually winter then crops don't grow. If you're relationship is stagnating and cold then love will never return. You need to care for a relationship the same way you need to keep your soil fertile for crops to grow.
>love doesn't exist if it's not forever
Watch less Disney and cultivate stoicism instead. Reality is more complicated than your muh animu, more unpredictable and scary. But the returns are better too, so some courage will do you a lot of good.
>But the returns are better too
And then the first few months pass and the charm is lost.
I 'love' my gf but she doesnt want to do perverted fetish stuff. All the girls I have been with, but didnt love, would let me do perverted fetish stuff. Life is suffering
I don't know about that, I still have a good thing going with my wife 10 years down the road. Maybe you're confusing familial love with infatuations. That's what mistresses are for as far as I'm concerned.
>That's what mistresses are for
>cuck in an open relationship trying to shill for marriage
What? I'm not in an open relationship.
How to solve this?
Brainwashing, infidelity or new gf.
I agree, men mentally and physically can not be monogamous but they try to enforce it so they don't get cucked into raising another mans child. Most end up using up their wife as a masturbation toy until she is old and undesirable then cheat with a younger woman. such is life.
Which hand is that, the left or the right?
Whites waste time thinking about how enlightened they are by not procreating? Enjoy your future minority status.
Why is it always an Asian?
Why is this entire website so obsessed with Asians?
>inb4 anime website
Glorious 2D waifus are not the same thing as generic 3D Asians.
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>imagine actually believing this nonsense
You’re providing betabux for a woman that got fucked for a martini by the men she genuinely was attracted to, gee I wonder what could go wrong?
Wake up idiot
Of course two adults can love each other. You have been tricked by the media. I bet you love bread and circuses.
Two is a supernatural number, the media and the government wants you to be alone, partially because lonely people spend more money, partially because lonely people get used to pain.
>t. can't get a virgin wife
stop projecting
>every relationship is a man and a woman
You're a fool. Try dating a man and don't tell me shit about dating other men if you have never tried it before, you're like a child that refuses to eat something they have never tried.
Take a good look at this guy everyone. This is the doom of every hetero. This is why Alexander the Great slept with men on the battlefield and women back at home.
God it must suck not to be the greatest sexuality of all, a bisexual.
That's not a coincidence, fren.
Stop attempting to corrupt your relationship by using fetishes as a self-sabotaging defense mechanism subconsciously intended to help you continually avoid confronting the intimacy issues you've been concealing from yourself your entire life.
You love her in large part because she is not a paraphilic object- don't deceive yourself into thinking your relationship would somehow be more fulfilling if you manage to reduce her to one.
In the process, reducing her to a paraphilic object would reduce you to one as well. And, fren, the peace you feel when you behave as an animal is a false peace, nothing more than a temporary respite from the fears and responsibilities that always accompany true human connection.
Stop watching porn. Learn to enjoy simple intimacy with the gf you love.
You can do it, user. I believe in you.
>God it must suck not to be the greatest sexuality of all, a bisexual.
It literally doesn't suck, that's the point, faggot.
Bisexuality literally doesn't exist.
You can still fall in love and be asexual, did you happen to mean aromantic user?
>It requires tons of trust and experience seeing each other at their most vulnerable.
This is 2019. And that is setting you up for a fall.
Have sex.
>I have sex with my gf so she will make me food
how fat is she that it's a chore?
>This attitude will ensure that you will not let a person actually love you.
thats the point. I know i'll hurt them either way so better not she grow attached.
I agree. It's a fine balance between mutual and personal interests. Two thinks that a crucial are that one, you have similar base interests and values (marriage, kids, finance management...) and two communication as in being able to resolve problems like adults without drama because most relationships fail (under the assumption that they have the first one down) because of misunderstandings and petty shit. There are cases where people just drift apart from no reason but usually there's a deeper problem involved.
you've got a vagina don't you?
not saying your wrong but I can smell the fish from my keyboard.
Have sex.
> Not being or planning to be in a relationship equates to no sex
Dilate.
The only way to make it work (and even then it's iffy) is if you date/marry your best friend. I mean someone who actually enjoys doing a lot of the stuff you do and really "gets" you. Problem is even that is hard and people can still fight with their best friends etc.
Personally I'd rather be alone anyway since I have a lot more free time to do what I want and I don't have to fake doing shit I don't want to do so I can get some sex/companionship. I might meet someone, I might not. At this point I'm just going about life and if I'm alone from here on then I don't really care.
Free Agent lifestyle my brother
Unless I meet someone who I am close to 100% compatible with, there is absolutely no reason to be in a relationship. People only do it because they think they're supposed to and because of loneliness. That's why they rush into it despite having nothing in common. Hell, most of the time its just a man wanting a pet and a woman wanting to be treated like a pet. There's nothing sacred about it.
Love is a niche thing and it fails because of how todays degenrate society works.
You can't expect to have a meaningful relationship with a random girl you met god knows where. Only in special circumstances can you get actual love, for example a childhood friend. Now I don't mean the weeb fantasy of type of thing. I mean a girl you were good friends all your life and grew up together through like elementary school, middle school and highschool. You know her interests and she knows yours, you can have meaningful conversations about actually interesting topics instead of the braindead shit Stacies like for example vines or starbucks, you feel comfy around them because of the years of kinship and in general they are very unlikely to just divorce your ass because they cheated on you, take the kids and money and then leave.
I've heard people say that you are supposed to go for girls outside your circle of interests so you never get bored but I really don't get that.
"Love" literally does not exist and is an abstract idea that we made up. What we think "love" is, is just a chemical reaction that entices us to procreate with each other and stay together long enough to ensure the survival of the child through its early development years. There's a reason why "the love chemical" starts to diminish after four years. Monogamy is something we made up and became of our culture. People are pack animals so they adopted it and bought into it on a social level.