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Are you a shut in?
Come chat.
A shut in is someone who rarely leaves the home or avoids leaving.
They may have social anxiety or mental disorders.
Simply being a NEET does not make you a shut in.
>will you make it
>what age do you think you should just give up
Birthday is soon, so six birthdays inside :)
haven't physically talked to anyone in at least five days. i think i can classified as a Hikkomori. AMA
Tiger parents taught me to wake up early, sit indoors, and read random shit for hours on end, without any human interaction. I hated it, because it went against all natural human instincts, but verbal and psychological abuse did the trick. Now, I can't unlearn this lifestyle, and my parents are too stupid to realize that this is exactly what they trained me to do; to them, I somehow magically went from "gifted-and-talented academic prodigy with a bright future" to "loser who sits inside his room and watches porn 24/7"
The worst part is thatI don't even watch porn; my libido is a rotting husk at this point. I just want to die. My future is gone. I want to die, but I can't because I'm some sort of pseudo-celebrity among my extended family and they don't deserve it.
greentext some of your worst moments, i'm curious as to what tiger parents are like
i can't be a shut in because i'll starve to death, i rarely eat food anyways because i'm too entertained watching youtube or playing vidya
By far the worst part is their narcissism; my parents refuse to apologize for any reason. The sort of people that teach obedience rather than self-discipline. My father would make me massage his back when I was younger, memories which I prefer to keep suppressed. The last time he ever made me do it was when started deliberately twisting the muscles in his back to get a pain response, Swedish style. My mother would bitch at me for not helping her in the kitchen, even when she never told me she was cleaning, and then, when I tried to help her, she'd jsut bitch about how I was doing things wrong until I stopped helping her, then she'd bitch at me for stopping. If I asked her why she did something or wanted something, she'd treat it as if I was implying she was wrong,rather than teach me. Very "don't think, just do." She'd try to manipulate me, and then lash out when I saw though it. Stuff like pretending to give me a choice, and then acting affronted when I called her bluff and chose other than what she wanted and expected, before forcing me to do it anyway. "If you don't get off the computer, you won't get any dinner." That sort of thing.
My father was the physically and verbally abusive one, and he prioritized his career over my well-being, whereas my mother likewise prioritized her marriage and her public image, which lead into her gaslighting me with regards to the severity of my father's abuse. I never spent two years in the same school, up until the last two years of high-school, if that gives you an idea. Yes, that's not hyperbole.
Which of course, leads into: Isolation. My parents kept me on a tight leash, and I never got much of a chance to visit friends. Likewise, they'd bring over their friends to network, and I'd be forced to help them clean the entire house, before being shoved off into my room to stay out of sight. It goes without saying that the guests got to eat better food than I did.
>They may have social anxiety or mental disorders.
No, enough with this psychology/psychiatry pseudoscience cancer
Mental illnesses are common because they have evolutionary origins and they are natural, we should stop labeling them as defects. the human brain is designed to always be slightly on edge and dissatisfied, never 100% content
"Social anxiety" is perfectly healthy. usually there's a good reason you want to avoid humans. If you've had many traumatic cringe experiences, it's a protective mechanism to prevent you from acting stupid again.
I've legitimately developed some sociopathic traits with regards to making friends. I can make friends with basically anyone, and easily stay on everyone's good side, and then, when it comes time to move on, I can forget about them without a second thought or an ounce of regret. I'm the type of person who could ghost an IRL friend after a year of getting to know them. It's something that developed out of necessity, as my family was always moving, my father chased fleeting career opportunities. Eventually, the pain of losing friends became too much, so I learned how to leave it behind.
Needless to say, I avoid making friends nowadays.
>they are natural, we should stop labeling them as defects
People are born with deformed limbs or spines. Those are perfectly natural, they're still defects. If you want to talk evolution, there is nothing worse than an inability to get a mate. That's literally how natural selection works. Don't complain about pseudoscience and then say something as retarded as that.
Can confirm, most "mental illnesses" are simply psychlogical adaptations to traumatizingly abnormal environments, adaptations which likewise appear as abnormal, to everyone who did not have to contend with said environments, and are therefore wrongly assumed to be harmful to the individual who displays them. A prime example of this would be stoicism in males, a reflexive fight-or-flight response to sharp, loud noises in soldiers, and a hyperawareness of the emotional states of others in victims of emotionally unstable abusers.