Yes, but I will not prove it, so you might as well assume whatever you prefer.
What do you think contributes to the development of a gentle femdom/mommy dom fetish? It's interesting to see how many people on this board are into that stuff. Lack of motherly affection? Too much motherly affection?
Humans develop according to a fairly strict pattern, and any issue at any stage leads to some problems later on. It's not geometry and humans vary a lot. It can be lack of and too much of and lead to similar issues, for various reasons.
Abusive upbringing (physical, emotional, sexual, whichever) can lead to various problems for various reasons as well: some are attracted to what they are used to, no matter how negative it is, because it is familiar; others want to conquer the past by mastering the same type of abuse in the present; others have their brains wired to feel intensely about being treated a certain way, etc.
Looking for imaginary mothers is typically what happens when your own mother didn't behave like the mother she should have been. user's obsession with mommies is the 21st century version of the fascination for Mother Mary in previous centuries (and to this day, obviously). It's basically making yourself a mental mother for your own development when your actual mother failed.
What if my mother didn't failed to be a mother? What if her and i are really close?
To this part, does it really just a fantasy of us guys or is there any connection about us being too connected to our mother or we're just really lonely that we need someone that is sweet just like our moms?
Please explain to me the big and little differences between bpd and hpd
>didn't failed ESL invader.
>What if my mother didn't failed to be a mother? What if her and i are really close? Maybe you have never learned not to be close to her and remained emotionally immature on some level.
>about us being too connected to our mother or we're just really lonely that we need someone that is sweet just like our moms? Everything in childhood, with parents, has an impact on relationships. That's how humans learn to depend on another for their needs. All needs. If your parents made you feel like you couldn't count on them, this will impact how you approach relationships.
How do I stop being bulimic when I can't afford actual therapy?
These are completely different personality disorders. BPD in itself is varied and wild and I wouldn't generalise about it. Histrionic is more about attention, sex, being seen, whereas BPD is more about an emotional turmoil and the shortcomings that come with these intense emotions.
how do I stop being a coomer
Describe exactly how an episode unfolds for you.
I have refused to learn what this fucking new meme means. Rephrase without using the meme.
@OP why are you against trans people? sad to hear someone in your position doesn't support us.
>Describe exactly how an episode unfolds for you. Sometimes it's triggered by boredom other times I get upset and need a distraction. Other times I just crave it like it's almost addicting to gorge and then throw it all up. So it varies on the day.
I am not against people, be they transsexual or not. I am in favour of what works best for people's happiness and peace of mind. What I am against, for now, is being too hasty about surgery. The fact that it generates a lot more money, and possibly misery, is what makes me feel very cautious about transitioning for people who feel like they are the other sex.
>I have refused to learn what this fucking new meme means. Rephrase without using the meme. how do I stop cooming
Can you imagine another activity that would have a similar effect? Like going swimming for a while, or breaking things, or anything at all?
okay that's fair. I guess I got a different impression from one of your other threads.
If transsexuals were truly happier after transitioning, I'd be of a different mind, but seeing what the actual operation is, and how people feel after transitioning, I cannot easily think that this is helping them. I feel like it's making a business out of their misery. When people "change sex", they don't actually change sex at all, they just leave humanity behind and neither men nor women will want them, unless they are themselves transsexuals, or some kind of homobisexual being and "tolerate" their artificial anatomy. My impression is that it's adding fuel to the fire and not actually solving anything.
That is my personal conflicted thoughts about this, but my interest lies entirely in people's happiness. I just want people to be happy. I'm not close-minded about trans people; for now, I don't believe it's normal or healthy to be one sex and feel like the other; I also think, for now, that this is a mental health problem and nothing else. But as I said, I'm open to new arguments and ideas and I can change my mind.
sorry for being mean to you yesterday OP like 90% of it was from me I did enjoy it but I don't think you deserved it despite your enormous attention whoring
Now that's some precious post right here. This doesn't happen often, and it might be the first time one of you apologises. Appreciated, all to your honor.
I still don't get how inviting others to talk about themselves is seen as "attention-whoring", especially when nobody here knows me. Interaction, yes, but attention? I get as much as I give, and I do think I give a lot more than I get, but feel free to disagree.
will you pls tell me how old you are and where you are from because half of your posts don't make sense without knowing I need some frame of reference
If you are unsure of anything, just ask.
>If you are unsure of anything, just ask. oke why don't you want to tell me these things? it's not like I can dox you from it
>oke why don't you want to tell me these things? Because I could say anything. I'm old enough to know better and I'm generally European.
so you're jewish
Here we go with the antisemitism. I don't have any Jewish genes, 0% on my test. I also have no English genes.
but you are very interesting and I want to know lol
from what you have told me I would have guessed English, especially as you mentioned being first language english speaking however you said you a) don't live in london b) don't earn in GBP c) say you are not ethnically english however you are european ? this leaves only ireland since you would earn in EUR, speak english, look like woman in photos (assuming it's not a larp)
but also you said part italian? what the fuck so you are mixed but if one of your parents is from anywhere in the anglosphere except England (although you could be half scottish or welsh) and lives somewhere in europe you would most likely be first language english and this would also align with all current information
I believe you mentioned 6 years as a therapist which + 3/4 years at uni would make you minimum 27/28
Nothing. I would approach my work differently and find solutions for objective problems. Medication is not a solution.
What's wrong exactly?
>second language English >literally perfect English >likes to refer to themselves as "European" >muh antisemitism muh racism is wrong !!! >really fucking stubborn and argumentative >shit humour oh dear the truth is much worse than any of us could have anticipated
Hi psych user I have a problem. Basically I cant laugh. I dont feel depressed and i can appricieate a good joke but no natural laughter ever comes out of me and i feel like a huge buzzkill (unless i try to fake it). The only time i can naturally laugh (or more like howl) is when im insanely drunk
trying to balance being a full time student and having a full time job will also dealing with a host of other shit and I feel like I want to stab someone to death half the time
How much do you steal per session from mentally sick people that actually need help?
I refer to myself as European so it isn't too precise. Racism and antisemitism are indeed wrong and the product of low intellects combined with mental illnesses in every single case I have observed. I'm not especially stubborn except when I am right. I am argumentative with whoever wants to debate.
And I'm pretty funny. You can't enjoy my humor because you feel attacked and admitting that I was funny would not suit you.
Thanks for the perfect English comment, though you probably meant it as meaning English really was my first language. It's not.
You might be a whole lot more anxious than you realise. When you are more relaxed -- as when you are drunk -- then you can laugh. Consider this angle.
>trying to balance being a full time student and having a full time job This might be a situation where you can't win. Be sure to recognise your limits and don't try to accomplish the impossible. Consider studying part-time, or working part-time. You need a good balance in your life or you will burn yourself out and hate your studies and job as well as everything else.
Do concepts like friends, family or identity have any necessary connection to reality? For example, love, they often say love is just chemicals. Does this mean what we think of as love is really just the definition we attached to the feelings, a definition that has been created by society over the course of history? So doesn't this mean everyone is just chasing the idea of love, and sometimes getting dissapointed when they find out love is not what the media (books, songs, movies, etc.) has told us about love? If we apply this to everything, what even is real about the way we think anymore?
They don't always pay themselves, as everyone is insured. The only people who pay directly from their own pockets are very rich people who want to leave no trace with their bank account. Otherwise people pay about 10% themselves, and the rest is covered by their insurance. My rate is somewhere between 150 and 200 dollars for an hour.
I'm extremely efficient and my reputation precedes me, as I can work niche patients that others can't.
How do you do it user? Like, how do you have the mental energy to make threads like these (ask a question about psych/women) every single day?
I do actually like you somewhat but sorry your humour is shit however your english is good enough for me (a first (and only) language speaker) to not clock you as foreign these among other things are very typical of filthy germans
There is no IQ limit on mental illness. Even a high IQ does not prevent from thinking stupid things. Some of the highest IQ's are literal idiots on other levels.
There might be some truth to that but it doesnt explain why i am experiencing the same thing in the comfort of my own room when listening to louis ck etc
It really pains me to see how you thieves are allowed to "treat" people and that goverment allows it.
>Do concepts like friends, family or identity have any necessary connection to reality? Absolutely. These things existed long before we had a word for them.
>For example, love, they often say love is just chemicals. Regardless of the origin of it, whatever you feel in your consciousness remains quite distant from scientific probing. You can only explain up to a point.
>Does this mean what we think of as love is really just the definition we attached to the feelings, a definition that has been created by society over the course of history? When you're in love, you know what's up, and that's hardly defined or created by society.
>So doesn't this mean everyone is just chasing the idea of love, and sometimes getting dissapointed when they find out love is not what the media (books, songs, movies, etc.) has told us about love? The truth is that actual love is infinitely more than what the media and the rest portray. It's larger than life and beats everything in songs, movies, novels, etc. Not everybody finds this kind of love, though.
>If we apply this to everything, what even is real about the way we think anymore? It's all real. You merely need not to confuse what you see in a film and what you see with your own eyes. With all this interactivity, people tend to forget that fiction isn't meant to be a faithful portrayal of reality, but to entertain. That is probably why people get so upset about everything nowadays: no distance to the material, they act like it's a political speech.
It's not every single day. It's a lot easier than the rest of what I do in my life. I found it harder to unclog the sink again and clean up my kitchen this morning. It's easier than working out, which I will attempt soon.
>I do actually like you somewhat but sorry your humour is shit It's fine, teenagers never think I'm that funny. It takes some maturity to enjoy the best keks.
Sounds like anxiety keeps you from laughing, quite simply. You may be scared to be seen laughing.
>It really pains me to see how you thieves are allowed to "treat" people and that goverment allows it. Why? I really don't get this sentiment at all. I get it a lot, and it makes me wonder why this reaction comes up so much. Are you one of those people who think all therapists are psychoanalysis worshippers?
Of course the government "allows" it, it saves billions.
Hi OP. I was diagnosed as having Bipolar II a few months ago and while the medication helps tremendously and the diagnosis gives a way to "understand" a very dark and confusing early adulthood, I am struggling to come to terms with being a person with a serious disorder.
It's very uncomfortable to think about sharing with others, due to stigma - self-imposed and projected on others.
How does one come up with the strength to "come out", so to speak?
Give yourself some time to accept it. There is no hurry. As to others, I wouldn't "come out" if they aren't very familiar with the condition, as people freak out whenever you go psychiatric on them. You're better off not being precise with anyone who doesn't know, if you mention anything at all. You can always educate then, depending on how you trust them. Choose wisely. I'd wait until I have fully accepted my condition, however.
>teenagers uh sweetie i'll have you know I am 20 years of age I have no interaction with anyone under the age of 35 these days and it's pretty shit
why are you so sad and lonely femanon are you actually one of these old career women that have super depressing lives? understandable why you are so bitchy most are even worse than you
>uh sweetie i'll have you know I am 20 years of age Your body might be 20.
>I have no interaction with anyone under the age of 35 these days and it's pretty shit Might be the source of your arrested development.
>why are you so sad and lonely I'm doing office work right now, I use the thread for minibreaks, it keeps me focused.
>understandable why you are so bitchy I'm really not, just busting your balls.
>most are even worse than you I guess that's a compliment.
>you feel in your consciousness remains quite distant from scientific probing. >It's larger than life and beats everything in songs, movies, novels This is what I was kind of fearing, that reality is indeed infinitely more complex than what a human can define or even comprehend, that at best we can kind of understand it from only our perspective. Nevertheless thanks for the answer
My point was mostly that love, in your life, beats everything else you have ever known. You know exactly why you are alive when you are in love and are loved. Everything makes sense and the universe is redeemed. It's what you were born for, to love someone and be loved by them. This is the heart of any happy life. Everything else comes around it but never replaces it.
>Sounds like anxiety keeps you from laughing, quite simply. You may be scared to be seen laughing. How does someone deal with anxiety? How do you overcome it over time?
One of these was not my thread.
I don't have to tell you anything.
>How does someone deal with anxiety? How do you overcome it over time? Exposure normally makes you get used to it eventually. You can also analyse precisely what you are scared of, and reconsider everything under a new angle. Realising there isn't anything to fear helps. You don't have to talk tons when socialising, you can listen and ask a few questions. You can be active without being actively speaking.
>One of these was not my thread. yeah I know but thought the post might be of interest to you but ok t b h if you are so rich and lonely you should just adopt me t b h just saying
Thanks, sounds like to makes sense
>Please describe your life with bipolar II. Most of my adult life has been filled with a dull, low-key depression but I had no awareness of it since I had no reference to compare how other people perceived things. Since everything I had to do took such enormous effort (everyday-things, studies, working out, etc) I just assumed I was lazy and that something was wrong with me. Every now and then would come a soul-crushing low where spending time with people would be frightening and all I wanted to do was locking myself in. Luckily(?) a student life allows for a lot of flexibility and people around me chalked it up to general eccentricity and being a bit of a hermit.
And then all of a sudden the clouds are parting, and an extraordinary high would appear. Grandiose thinking, unrealistic projects were started, creativity beyond my normal means, everything is suddenly SO EASY - and then would come the crash. All the projects appear ridiculous, all self-confidence would disappear and everything is meaningless.
And then it would even back to the first phase, the dull but vague sense of depression.
At 29 I am now taking lithium and a low dose lamotrigine. While lithium sucks in its own way (slight numbness, poor fine motor skills, no alcohol) they have truly, combined with a very good therapist, changed my life. Just a shame that it took so long, you know?
I suppose growing up in an environment where "Ah, just go take a walk, it'll cheer you up" as the cure for every mental problem does not really help.
Sorry for the blogpost, thanks for reading etc.
>14/88 Why do Jow Forumstards keep posting their age and IQ?
those are pretty feet
You have no idea what's wrong with people. You apply "treatment" that you read from a book someone else wrote and used the treatment on completely different person. And because symptoms are similar, you just assume that is the sickness. How do i know this? Every single therapist i have visited asked the same fucking questions, every single one. Why? Because they all follow the same steps they read from the same book.
>Every now and then would come a soul-crushing low Was this triggered by a specific event or random?
How do i stop being a total coomer? It's the only thing that gives me dopamine anymore since i stay inside all the time.
>You have no idea what's wrong with people. We do know quite a lot about many conditions.
>You apply "treatment" In psychotherapy, the treatment is always talking, implemented with other types of therapies. When problems are the same, the solutions are the same also. If that doesn't work, you try something else that is related.
>And because symptoms are similar, you just assume that is the sickness. That is how medicine works also. If you have all the symptoms for cancer, you treat the illness as cancer. Misdiagnoses are less consequential in psychotherapy where no medication is prescribed. At worst, you get to do some type of therapy that doesn't help you much for a while. That's not much.
>How do i know this? Every single therapist i have visited asked the same fucking questions, every single one. Why? Because they all follow the same steps they read from the same book. Every doctor asks you how you are and what the problem is; being the same questions doesn't mean it's wrong, or bad.
There are many schools of therapy, and a lot more than a single book for each. If you are not satisfied with the therapists you saw, try a different school. What types of therapists were they and what problems did you see them for?
You don't even know if I am white, boyo. I have lived in non-white areas. American blacks living in depressing conditions is not related to their race. The exact same thing would happen with any race. You can't undo the damage that centuries brought within a few decades without using a ton of money to do so, and it's not feasible as of now. Genetics is not even half the problem here.
Start working out.
Stop using memes when you write or think. This will only further isolate you socially.
OP, are you into BDSM?
Both phases could be caused by a trigger, or seemingly random. There could be a trigger that I had no awareness of. The last- and the worst depressive episodes I had was triggered by stress at both work and home. This one caused 3 weeks of sick leave and almost a hospitalisation.
It depends, but roughly speaking: 2 days of full effect, 2-3 days of slowing days and then a couple of days of feeling normal again and then the crash comes.
This could be a bit hard to answer but what does the first session look like? Should I just say all the shit that I've been through or is there a small talk to build a connection or something. I never understood how can people go to a complete stranger and admit all their flaws, I don't think I could do that.
>then the crash comes. Can you tell me more about this?
Why am I still thinking about the guy I had sex with a couple days ago even though my intent was to be casual about it and nothing else?
Christ, even for an answer you just choose words you were taught to say.
>This could be a bit hard to answer but what does the first session look like? Heavily depends on the therapist. It's usually a time to get to know each other and get comfortable. It's also when you see whether you think you can trust this person for the long run.
>I never understood how can people go to a complete stranger and admit all their flaws, I don't think I could do that. It's like a priest. Consider seeing a Rogerian therapist, as they are specialists in patients who have a hard time expressing themselves.
You caught feelings, baby. That's what sex is for, also. Tighten the bond between two beings. You may have wanted to be casual about it, but that's not how humans work. Sex isn't for casuals. Filthy casuals. Sex is for sexuals.
>Christ, even for an answer you just choose words you were taught to say. That's just you applying the same filter to everything. You don't have a clue what therapists learn, study, and train for. At least you actually believe I'm a therapist, so that's a start.
Apart from being a cunt, can you answer any of my questions or is that too problematic for your bullshit?
it's all theoretical to you though you haven't lived it
anyway OP I have some more news about my shitty life for you even though I know you don't care and will probably mock me for it
3 days ago I found out from another youngish guy in my company that the boomers who hired me and I interact with all day didn't really want to help me with my stupid non existent career or want the best for me as they all said they did they are actually just exploiting me for cheap labour as I am capable and willing to do boring hard shit all day even though it counts for fuck all in the grand scheme of things the thing they advertised the job as and said I would get to do doesn't even exist I swear this whole world is trying to stomp on my neck
Observe others, practice, but above all, spend time with others.
>it's all theoretical to you though >you haven't lived it What would you know about that.
Talk about it with your bosses or look for another job.
I know I did :< I pushed him out the door I was supposed to be done. It was just birthday sex. Is it worth chasing after a guy ten years older than me? He actually asked me out afterwards already so.
Not really a question but thank you so much for continually coming to r9k and giving out your advice. You've been an absolute godsend and I really appreciate your time here trying to help us. Have a great day!
>What would you know about that. shit so bad I can't even post it here did you read those archive links lol just use your imagination
yeah I guess due to very specific circumstances i'm stuck in this awful job for the next year regardless though
really running out of reasons to continue following rules anymore
>Is it worth chasing after a guy ten years older than me? Age doesn't matter once you're both legal. Trust what you feel and go for it. Love is too great to dismiss like a one-night stand.
Thank you for that. I didn't expect it. Thank you.
I don't use it. I prefer to ask my patients directly.
I hate being dramatic, but there's no other way than describing as a "crash". Every good feeling, every idea and project and every ounce of positivity suddenly drains away from you. You hate yourself for your delusions, your stupid projects that nobody cares about. You're reduced to a grey, empty shell of a person. You want to isolate yourself where you won't be a burden to others with your ridiculous existence.
You can't reason your way out of it or use logic, since the part of you that's using logic isn't functioning properly. It doesn't matter if you have people who genuinely love you or care for you - all sense of perspective just disappears and is replaced with this dull, unbearable greyness.
Why do I get severe anxiety episodes for messages and not for face to face conversations, shouldn't it be the other way around.
I'm very interested in this. Can you describe your delusions more? What kind of things do you do when hypomanic?
What's wrong, cunt. Getting angry because i don't give answers according to your textbook?
>messages As in e-mails? Maybe because you have no control over what happens with a message, as it's already written and not direct. When facing someone, you can correct an error on the spot and you are communicating with the person in their presence, whereas messages don't work like that, you have to wait to get a response, and it's not "live".
>What's wrong, cunt. Getting angry because i don't give answers according to your textbook? Not at all, homo, you're being a weakling and I expected nothing more.
Dropping you like a hot, thick turd right now. Enjoy your day, faggot.
I got a job after college and I got depressed as fuck instead of glad. I'm seriously thinking about killing myself because I feel my life is over for some reason and I can't even talk to a therapist in real life because I don't even have time for that since I work all week. It's only been 3 days and I already want to quit. Is it normal or am I the one in the wrong? What the fuck do I do now? It feels so hopeless and empty.