Yes, they changed their ambitions to support your ungrateful self
Is it ok to criticize/be angry at our parents?
Isaiah Gomez
Elijah Roberts
>i dont think ma parents' best is good enough
Holy Shit Dat Entitlement
Please never breed
Caleb Rodriguez
Sure if your parents are just assholes then that's what it is (unfortunately).
My first reaction was to OP after he calls his parents close-minded, weak and stupid. Like he feels they should have worked harder/smarter. But if they tried to the best of their ability, I don't think it's fair to blame them. (And in case he is not yet a working adult, it's really impossible to know how bad the burden of every day working life can be.)
Asher Adams
you're right, I'm being too harsh. Theyre probably depressed about their situation too but is too old/ losing the drive to change due to age.
Maybe I've subconsciously been disatisfied for years and now everything is coming together and blowing up.
It's funny how extreme my dad's personality can get too - alpha in some niche aspects but absolutely weak minded and cowardly in others. Mom's the same. Probably because both had no fatherly figure either.
Luis Ortiz
>absolutely weak minded and cowardly in others. Mom's the same.
probably due the years of dealing with disappointing children
Blake Bailey
checked and I feel the same way exactly, you couldn't have put it better.
I have a love/hate relationship with my parents, I try to be nice and empathetic but I can't help becoming annoyed and angry at them for stupid shit they are doing. If they were friends, I would have abandoned them long time ago, but I just can't bring myself to cut contact completely because they ARE after all my parents who I know care deeply about me despite their shortcomings. It's a shitty situation.
Brody Baker
it sounds like they taught you more than you realize. forgive and help them. learn non violent communication. it's the only effective way to communicate with wageslaves.
Justin Cruz
But the thing is there are more successful parents and less successful ones, just because they worked hard doesn't mean they are free from criticism. I know it sounds cold but that's the reality and you have to deal with it. I really don't understand people who defend their parents so vehemently (unless of course there is a reason for that - maybe they are genuinely great) but let's be real most parents out there are dumb fucks.
Grayson Torres
empathy should comes naturally in healthy relationships. what you're dealing with is codependency. most likely from hypocritical parents like everyone else. You will suffer from this later in life if you don't locate and nuke the thought patterns that cause the irritability.
Levi Young
Theres nuances to everyones interactions which we don't know about, so it's hard to have this conversation. But I think many people, especially family, can be too critical. Love them, but also let them live life the way they choose. Don't love them only under your conditions. Everyone is their own person.
One of my brother is getting into early midlife crisis where he is super critical of his family members. Like he's the one to dictate how we should be interacting with eachother.
Be sure not to be 'that' guy.