My father just fucking died and I'm in fucking tears and don't know what the fuck to do. I'm trying to drown my pain in alcohol but it's not working and I have no fucking clue what I'm going to do when I sober up tomorrow morning.
I'm not trying to make a funny post this time. It's real and I'm completely broken right now.
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Can someone please just talk to me? I don't care who it is.
I'm sorry man, was it expected or an accident?
lol
How old was he?
hold still, friend
the pain does not have to be forever
Been there. Done that. Only thing that helped was studying stoicism, personally.
Doctors said that his kidneys were failiing and that they would have to insert a shunt into his heart for dialysis. That operation was on thursday and it probably was too much for his already weakened heart. He struggled through the weekend, but last night, his heart stopped. I'm fucking broken here.. I'm really switching between feeling nothing at all and breaking down in tears every few hours
We're here for you Brudi, I will never leave you.
Fuck you
78. I was just joking with him on thursday that this would be a minor OP and that he'd feel better after it. Was the last time I was able to talk to him.
God bless, lad.do you still have your mother?
Damn, just take your time to cry bro
I don't even don't know how to feel right now. My brain has accepted the fact, but my heart hasn't.
I think that when the grief actually comes, I won't be able to handle it. I really don't know what to do.
My siblings are all around the house and everyone's crying.
Sorry to hear that lad. My sincere condolences to you and your family.
I’m sorry
Spend time with them. Not on here. You'll just get cunts like the other American itt.
>78.
are you 50
we'll all be food for worms one day.
enjoy it while it lasts.
Be a man, buddy, we all are not immortal. think that he went to better world.
I've agreed with my brother that we wouldn't show her our grief just yet. I've literally spent the last two hours crying in the arms of my oldest brother out of my mother's sight.
I'm totally fucked right now.
Sorry to hear that mate. My dad died 3 years ago, it takes time, you'll be numb for the first few months. It takes a while for it to sink in, don't feel you have to cry but don't bottle it up.
I feel you brother
There's not much I can do, but here's a hug from Italy
Remember him as the great man I'm sure he was and help your family
>78
and you didn't see it coming?
I'm so sorry, friend. Believe me, the pain will not last forever. Stay strong.
Turning 35 next month. They had me very late after the last planned kid.
Could be OP is in his 30s and his dad was older, it's not unusual, older parents are better desu
Just get 3 hookers and kill them post the pics see how that makes you feel
Spend the time with your family mate. Being emotional is totally normal and okay.
Grief affects everyone differently. Stay strong.
I am sorry man, I hope He is in a better place.
And you will be for awhile still. It's ok. Hope you get well soon, m8.
dude you wanna fuck me? you gay or somethin cause im ok with it
I think you need to leave
I am sincerely sorry for you man, take all the time you need to somewhat process that hard change of your surroundings in your pace. It'll never be the same, but it will get better eventually. And try to keep a little distance from alcohol, it'll just make things worse if you drown yourself with it.
Much love
Ignore him
* by that I mean the stupid cunt shitposter. Just to clarify.
Bad feels will pass away, brother. That's a life, anyone gonna die, but your life won't let him disappear forever. He's always with you, in your heart
We knew that it would come eventually, but this was kind of a minor OP.
Fuck man.. I just joked around with him that it would be over soon and that he would be on his beloved sofa again on this night.
And now he's dead and.. well.. I don't even fucking know how to end this sentence
How old are you?
I am terrified about this day, when someone very close to me will depart, like my parents. It's hard to think about it but It´s certainly this day will come.
i think you wanna fuck me bro
Maybe I'm a psychopath but I'm unable to understand why people are so upset about (natural) death. Your dad lived a long and relatively comfortable life compared to many others on this planet.
You know what's the worst? I dreamed about him being better the last night. In my dream he was able to walk again and that everything had just worked out fine. And then I woke up to my brother and sister telling me that he had passed away during the night and now I just sat with my mom on the couch for hours telling her that everything would be alright knowing that it won't be alright. I'm completely fucked right now.
to be honest, i think it is better when the death comes suddenly, rather than see the person you love slowly turning into a shell of his former self
I'm sorry. Be strong.
Just said in above post that I'm 34. My parents had me at a pretty late stage. Usually people live to have their parents die at like age 50-60 of their own, but this is really fucking me up right now.
My mom just sits on the couch watching TV like nothing happened, but I'm pretty sure that she's complete shellshocked.
What the fuck do I do now? This is too much for me. I feel like I'm going insane.
Guys I need help
Stop drinking. Alcohol is only making the feeling worse.
And it's okay to be emotional. Take your time to process the grieving.
I don't know what advice to give you but you have my condolences. Hang in there, deutscher
Please? I know you like to fuck around, but I really need help
you'll have to be strong
you're the man now, dawg
I'd just like to remind you that he would be happy for you to carry on and have a good life.
I know that you're trying to help me with that, but I need to get drunk to be able to sleep tonight. This is the only calming thing that keeps me from going batshit insane right now.
I don't know how to help you over the internet friend, I would hug you and let you cry on my shoulder if I were there. I am clueless, maybe I'd help to go comfort your mother.
It'd*
Not easy. Hopefully he is in a better place right now. Treasure the people you do have in your life, like your mom, friends, siblings etc. Sooner or later we will all die we should be prepared for death when it does happen to us too.
That's probably the best thing I can do. You know what? I'll just finish my drink and the last cig and sleep next to her for the night.
I think that's the only reasonable thing I can do.
Bro call this no.
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To be honest I believe you had enough alcohol for now. It only enhances the feeling and too much of it during the grieving process is not going to make you sleep better.
And speak with the Krisendienst just like the other user recommended. Let it all out, it's okay to do that. That what they're there for.
You could also call a close friend if you feel more comfortable with that.
He lived a full life pretty much and it doesn't sound like it was long and painful end. All things considered it could have been much worse. Sorry if sounds offensive, but just trying to be realistic. Death is always a tragedy but if you clear your head you can maybe convince yourself that this situation isn't as bad as it could have been.
As much as we call ourselves fags and the whole shit over here.. please hug your parents while you still can. You might not be able to once you regret it.
How was your relationship with him? If either of my parents died now I'd be broken because I still want to help them financially after they done so much for me and my siblings but I think if one of them died at the age of 78 after many good years I think I wouldn't be too sad except at the start.
>tfw I'll be the first of my siblings to die
I don't give a shit about dying, but it's what my family will feel that makes me feel bad
I'm sorry man, that's hard. Most people have to go through this at one point in their life and even though we all experience similar situations it doesn't make it any easier
Be happy that the last time you spoke to him you were both laughing.
There are many people who didn't have that moment.
Just cherish the great moments you had with him, he'd probably rather have you celebrate the time you two had together, over his loss.
people always feel bad when you die
you won't come back and they kinda realize it
I'm completely aware that I'm drunk off my ass and that it has been WAY too much. You don't have to remind me of that fact. I've been doing that to avoid the fact dad has just died.
And yeah.. I should probably call that number.
>I was just joking with him on thursday that this would be a minor OP and that he'd feel better after it
Wow, one of the last conversations you had with your father was LITERALLY a bold-faced lie.
Enjoy burning in hell.
sorry to hear that man.
keep in mind your father is still alive, his legacies will never leave your heart, he is alive in your memories, he is immortal, by heart.
also i suggest to lay off the Internet or Jow Forums a bit because it can get very negative tbqh.
Also remember he loved you and try to think of the good times you had with him, the little things you did are usually the happiest memories.
>what is grief
How about you join him you despicable waste of oxygen? Take your shitty blogposting elswhere you attention soliciting wankstain.
>Be happy that the last time you spoke to him you were both laughing.
That's why I'm not sure if I want to see him the one last time in the crematorium. Just last Thursday we were joking about the waiting times in the hospital and how good the nurses looked and shit like that. I don't know if I want to remember him like that or laying down dead in a coffin..
My deepest condolences. You won't find any short or long term solutions on here, in such cases family and genuine friends is really all you have. However, a good therapist can make a world of difference, please take it in consideration. Godspeed.
>Wow, one of the last conversations you had with your father was LITERALLY a bold-faced lie.
Yeah fuck you too, mate. That's what the doctors at the Krankenhaus in Mechernich told us. They told us that he would be well again and coming home TODAY.
BUT FUCK, I'M THE LIAR HERE. YEAH FUCK YOU.
Don't pay attention to all these faggots user, they are trying to provoke you to get attention. Try to stay positive and be grateful of the dad you had, most people have/had shitty dads. Maybe you should avoid posting here for a while and take some time off and spend some time with your family
>Mechernich
Uhm, if you have loved ones in need of medical care, maybe it's best not to put them in shithole hospitals in virtually unkown cities?
Your dad was a citizen of Nazi Germany, this is karma for his crimes as a wh*Te, dumb blogposter
No tears, komshu, he is with Tengri now.
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My condolences.
I see my own parents turning grey, their selection of medicine increase, failing physique and their minds slowing.
I know what's at the end of this path, i have no grandparents anymore, but i will never be prepared for what you're facing.
Life is too cruel. Take it one day at a time.
Sorry to hear that, Germanbro.
>what is grief
Your entire existence, judging from your flag.
RIP
Life is always much shorter than we want it to be. Hopefully you will see your papa again someday happier and healthier than ever. In the meantime you need to help support your family aka your mom especially but any brothers and sisters too. Treasure every day with ones you love.
fuck your dad, fcking niggrr
shoot up a kindergarten and scream heil hitler
Sorry for your loss user.
I am by far no expert on the subject but i have heard good things about use of psychadelics in the right set and setting for as an ex. Dealing with loss. it might be useful looking into cermonial psychadelic use with a good shaman/professional for ex to guide you. I dont want to come off as some wierd dude dmt guy but i think there is something about it even though ive never done it myself
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Have you tried blaming the Jews for it?
fuck I'm sorry user
Or perhaps now is not a good time for edgy jokes. I'm sorry for your loss man.
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sorry to hear that
I'm sorry for your loss, my father died 2 years ago. I didn't even cry though.
You are one tough cookie