How do I not be boring? What exactly makes someone interesting?

Being a good listener and asking people questions about their intrests and about thinks they love talking about

The thing holding you back from being who you wanna be is your fear. Remove your filters when talking that your internal fears have created. Don't be autistic, but recognize that the more you filter yourself, the less you have to talk about.

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just beeurself

doesn't make you an interesting person though

The things you do while taking trips with them do

>remove filter
There's always that one unfiltered chad. Someone's already said it, but remove your filters. Don't be afraid to offend or confuse people if you truly think they deserve it, but don't be a cunt. Being opposed to certain things builds character.

>play a competitive sport
It doesn't matter what sport it is, so long as you're active in it, and love it.

>clothing
Wear nice clothes. Smell and feel fresh because this will boost your confidence like crazy. You're only insecure and unconfident because you got 3 hours of sleep last night and forgot to put on deodorant for the day.
Also don't be afraid to stand out a little in terms of clothing at parties. Display character.

>doing stuff
We've replaced experiences with time-fillers like browsing anime boards. Do shit.

>read
Read. A mind needs books like a sword needs a whetstone. Develop your wit and humour.

etcetera.

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Completely disagree. Groups of normies hate meaningful discussion of any topic besides cars, girls, sports, people not present, consumer tech (phones), stories from the past and maybe shared professional concerns. Try talking about something that only you are very interested in. Who you gonna talk to about it? Bunch of people who can't possibly contribute cause they lack your level knowledge? At best they might be interested for real and ask questions but then your encounter becomes a lecture. That's at best. At worst you bore everyone to tears.
Far better is to talk about nothing and fish for those moments when you can make someone else feel good. Friend says he has a new job? Ask for details. Make him or her feel like you care or that it is interesting. The purpose of talking is NOT exchange of knowledge. It's a tool for building confidence among those who participate. While this is shallow as fuck it makes other people like yo and you will get invited to social gatherings. You meet more people, more people like you, more people know you, more opportunities of varying nature you get.
If you wish to talk because you have something to say that is interesting to you better just upload it to youtube or start a blog. This way people have a way to opt-out without leaving the room.
Also, even if you get some people interested almost always such discussion will end in an argument or people feeling worse about themselves. Try talking about being Jow Forums to normies. They either will spew idiocy (ex. calories don't matter) or feel bad that what they thought they knew turned out to be false. Making people feel bad for whatever reason, even if you are correct and have good intentions, will get you not invited anymore. In some parts of the world it is even consider literally rude to talk about politics during a social gathering that was not assembled for this purpose. And it is a great rule. Try having a political discussion that does not end with a heated exchange.

Start drinking lots of alcohol. Like every time you see people you should be at least a bit drunk.

while you’re not wrong, girls get fucking wet from knowledge and passion. for making friends and being casual, yeah small talk is a go to but if you really want to impress a girl try explaining something you love in depth (as long as it’s not autistic and is actually interesting/beneficial to your life). by doing this it shows that you have depth and drive as a person and are passionate about something of value to your future, you demonstrate ability as a provider. don’t sperg out about your workout or anything weeb/meme related tho that will end all chances of ever right there

1. You can be boring to some and interesting to others
2. The key is how you relate to the world. If you are invested and truly alive then you are interesting. The amount of things you do doesn't matter in the slightest.

Disregard all other advice. This is the real redpill i have concentrated for you in 2 bullet points

>Be class mates with a grill
>Notice from my side eye one day that she's staring at me
>Every time I look back at her, she looks away
Wat teh fug? She already has a bf. Or am I interpreting this wrong way?

I like the criteria you picked: not autistic and beneficial. This is really a golden rule. If you make a lot of money drawing porn then don't share it. If you are an amateur astronomer and own 5 telescopes – don't mention it. Only money counts that you earn without being weird. You start talking because you pass visual qualification and you establish a bond by showing you have money.
If awareness of this does not make you cynical and depressed you are a normie.

Owning telescopes is boring and gay, making money with porn is interesting and cool.

>New guy joins my circle of friends
>Ultra-Chad, constantly has amazing stories to tell from crazy experiences
>Every time we meet he asks me about my week / about similar experiences
>Have absolutely nothing to say

So at some point I got fed up getting called out like that (although he didn't do it intentionally) and never having any stories to tell so I developed this plan:

1) Actually take some time and think about all the crazy things that I have experienced and that could potentially be worth a story. Everyone has a story to tell, we might just not remember or we think it's not worth telling (wrong)
2) Write them down like exciting short stories that make it easy to visualize them in your head and trigger emotions
3) Make it your goal to have at least one extraordinary experience during the week. Now when I say extraordinary I don't mean it has to be something ridiculous, just a thing you don't normally do, something that requires you to leave your comfort zone.
4) Keep a diary

t. alcoholic

Drawn porn is autistic for normies. And I kinda assumed that by porn it would be understood as shit like furry, lolis and other fetishes.
Once my group of normies discussed various ways of making money and I just mentioned that there are fetish porn artists that make a shit ton of money per hour on Patreon. They were disgusted. But it is this kind of disgust that not only envelopes the mentioned topic but the one that mentioned it too (I got negative social points, so to speak). It was like referring to farts during a meal.

either you're an absolute freak that she can't help staring at, or there's something behind you or around you that she's constantly looking at, or she's attracted to you

Get better friends.

I dunno every girl is boring as fuck but they seem to get laid anyway hmm

lol

Too autistic. They keep me around because I used to know way more than them about programming and computer science and I could hold an interesting talk. They caught up to me and even surpassed me but they keep me because of habit.

Lying.

Disagree. Exaggeration is allowed, though.

Lie anout your life

You know the better you get to know someone, the deeper the conversations you can have get. Sure, don't sperg out on your hobby when you are meeting people for the first time, but after they get to know you they can tell you spend alot of time on something and will become intrested. Perhaps they will just want to know what it is and won't inquire further, ,maybe it'll become their new hobby, maybe they'll just like to hear about it from you. Either way if anyone wants to be charming, don't think about conversations as some sort of tool you use to get what you want, conversations are just too people relating, a charming person just understands whats being related to them and what to relate back.
This user got it. You will never please everyone. You got to find out who you are and then go to the people who like that. The hard part is finding out who you are.

Start using hardcore drugs. Everyone loves a junkie.

Well I already lost my original self because I was rejected too many times. Simply it became impossible to believe that I haven't met the right people. What seemed more probable was that I suck and I'm a bad person. Now I just try to please people around me and avoid talking about myself unless asked and even then I try to be brief. It worked. People tolerate me and I pretend to be interested in their shit despite that they would not accept mine.

This smacks violently of someone with no social awareness or compassion whatsoever. Truly sad.

Can you explain? I would appreciate it. Most of this post concerns feelings of other people so I wonder how it shows lack of compassion. I was isolated from other children until 6yo so I do have weak social awareness and skills.

Help me bros
Recently got into uni and i still talk to no one at my classes, i barely know anyones name for fucks sake, i feel like shit because i can only see friends on some weekends and maybe not even then, i need to make new friends but i find starting and keeping a conversation with someone i know nothing about way too hard.
any tips? what sould i do?

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drop something and tell somebody to pick it up as a conversation starter

post some of your diary stories please

Join a society and go hard. Climbing, football, literally anything that meets a few times a week

Time works against you. You are probably not attractive enough for people to approach you first. Approach people before they label you as a weirdo.

How is that a conversation starter?
>can you pick that up please?
>here you go
>t-thanks...
???????????

Literally sit beside someone and make small talk
"Wow this lecture is really fucking cool/shitty. I really liked/hated this part. What do you think, bud?"
>lmao please actually say bud
>do this for a week, friendship is about repeated, positive, unplanned interactions

It's highly subjective. To normies, if you know a lot about celebrities and movies you're """"""""""interesting"""""""""""", but to anyone with a triple digit IQ that same person is painful to be around.

Drink alcohol somewhere where people drink alcohol.

Do you have any lectures where you're only a small group? Maybe seminars / study groups?

It's a million times easier to be interested than interesting.
If someone talks about something they enjoy ask them questions and try be as genuinely interested as you can, or even fake it if you have to. Most people would rather talk about themselves and things they enjoy than listen to someone trying to make themselves interesting.

Have hobbies you are passionate about helps as well so you can reciprocate conversion but don't be long winded if you aren't enthuasiastic.

Im going to joing the track team i hope, but i dont know how to yet
2 girls aproached me for a duo assignment, but i didnt get any oportunities to talk to them about anything not work related
this is actually a good idea
i want to join a study group not just for the social aspect but i dont think theres any yet.

>Making people feel bad for whatever reason, even if you are correct and have good intentions, will get you not invited anymore.
Don't expect them to respond either.

Autists fail to understand that being interesting is not about you, except indirectly. It's about how other people feel around you. Showing sincere interest in something they feel confident speaking about, and knowing enough to boost the conversation without overwhelming it. That's the key.

So when I go to a work convention, we exchange info about our jobs, and that's mildly interesting because it's useful. But when I prompt someone to talk about their latest project, the strivers get excited. They want someone to be interested in their project. Injecting short statements about something similar boosts that, while short grunts or long digressions turn them off. Once they have told the whole story, I pivot to something relatable but not purely work because we also have lives.

With girls, you have to lead the conversation, where the goal is to get her talking about something funny in a normie way. She wants to trade funny stories but won't do it unprompted. Then you encourage her to tell stories while you do, and inject short commentary, which should be more about encouraging her than about really adding an opinion.

Once people know you find them interesting, they will tend to be biased to find you interesting as well. Easiest if you can sincerely enjoy someone else's enthusiasm regardless of the topic, but if you're too autistic for that then just fake it.

Chad would have talked about something not work related.

r u an interesting guy?

>haha

hahaha

This is pretty good advice. Although, I'd disagree that girls always want to trade funny stories. It's a good guideline, for sure, but you can get them talking about all kinds of stuff if you're good at conversation in general.

I litteraly would go up to people eating lunch and ask if i could sit with them. Ask about things that when they ask you about, you have some kind of story.
>Ask them about their major, if they like it.
Theyll ask you what yours is, have a joke ready 'im in engineering. The work is tough but all the at least the girls are hot LOL!' 'im in liberal arts so im practicing living out of a box LOL'
Then do the same with where theyre from, then do the same thing 'cool, im from xxxx, its a little redneck stronghold in the middle of Connecticut LOL'
Ask about their siblings, or their hobbies, etc. Till you find something in common, then talk about that.

I did this till i caught depression and died.

I switched schools a few times.

Just say hi to someone. Thats all i did. Try and start or join a conversation. If you see them out, ask them what your doing and tag along. If you see them sitting having lunch or something, ask to join. I doubt many people are big enough cunts to say you cant. And if they do they're not worth the time.

Just try user!

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Aesthetic calfs

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I don't know if you're in college or not but talking about class or asking someone about something relevant is a strategy that works for me. I used to not care about meeting people on campus, despite being outgoing, because I commute from the sticks into a major city so I didn't care. I decided to stop being a faggot and now I have people on campus that are cool and we can help each other out.

I also recommend a bar/restaurant gig if you're in school, I bartend and make like 50/hour with a schedule that's great for students, plus you learn how to interact with random members of the public. Every customer is essentially approaching someone cold to ask them shit (do you need anything, how's every th ingntreating you so far, etc) good stuff to help anons break out of pure autism

100% this.

>What exactly makes someone interesting?

Someone who can make others feel interesting

How you tried approaching other people?

stop it, you're making me feel too interesting

usually constist of me asking for their name and giving mine back, shaking hands and then i try to make small talk, but it usually leads to nothing, i like to ask what are their majors but i cant really do that with peaple in my own class so i dont know what to ask
when i get to class there is usually 1-3 people in the room already, i think its a decent idea to say good morning when i enter so i atleast get seem normal and not that anti-social

Yes, girls get really fucking wet when I tell em how crappy AMOS is.

You're just wrong my dude

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1) Don't worry about being boring

2 )Just be yourself. Really, people can detect when you are faking being "interesting".

Having drugs helps

That doesn't make you intresting.

Straight from social interactions 101

>autism edition

one thing doesn't make anyone interesting. when its just another thing you do, then you become interesting.

>"Oh wow, he rides a motorcycle too?"

Experience and balls.

Top 20 % face plus height or a loud and enthusiastic personality

mirin hard

Attractiveness has literally nothing to do with making friends.

Boring people rely on canned conversation starters and topics. Entertaining people are capable of talking about fucking nothing and still manage to be fun to be around. Who's more fun: the fag who brags about his motorcycle and his latest paycheck, or the spontaneous and observative Chad? If you're at a party, you think you can literally just interrogate girls and they'll somehow like you because of it? Think for a second, autismos, what really makes you fond of another person?

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>need advice on how to not be boring
Observe and follow nothing anyone will tell you will genuinely make you more approachable

You dont need any of these to make friends.

THEN TELL ME HOW THE FUCK DO I GET TO KNOW SOMEONE BUT AT THE SAME TIME I CANT ASK QUESTIONS
please
im autismo

This is true generally. Less true with close friends or at organized events about specific disciplines. But still, spot on.

>'cool, im from xxxx, its a little redneck stronghold in the middle of Connecticut LOL'

Litchfield county?

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This. People love me but that's only because I know how to socialise. My passions are fitness, maths, philosophy, literature, camping/hiking, film/TV, and to some degree football(soccer). I'm also quite well travelled. Other than football, I literally cannot talk about any of those things without repelling normies. They either immediately think you're trying to gloat or a narcissist and immediately start trying to one up you or just tune you out and smile and nod because they couldn't give a fuck about anything other than what they're going to say next. Most people my age have no interests and no passions other than browsing Instagram, watching Marvel movies and getting hammered on nights out. Don't bother talking to people about topics that they aren't into basically. If you want to talk about the book you're reading, find someone who reads. If you want to talk about your fitness goals, find someone else with real fitness goals. In group settings, don't do anything but make small talk, hype people up, listen to them, make people laugh, and generally feel good around you. And never ever give advice unless you're specifically asked.

This shouldn't depress you. Think about it. If some dude you're talking to at a party starts sperging out about his stamp collection and how much it's worth, would you be interested?

what if after years of isolation I don't wanna talk but just have sex and make money? Literally nothing interests me

>thanks. Hey, what's your name? I think I've seen you around.

You can obviously ask questions, but they're not the key when you're trying to build a real connection with someone. Questions about your life are the shallowest part of the conversation, not the core.

Is there a starting socializing?

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>yeah im XXXXXXX
>oh, im user
??????????????
then what is the core of a conversation? How do i know that and make the conversation last?

this desu

be good looking and attractive

You're hopeless mate. Good luck

how did you start bartending? can you just walk in knowing the names of drinks and apply to be a barback?

Best thing you can do is ask them about HW/class imo. Towards the end of my junior year I was getting a little bored of my regular friend group (who also had no people in my major in it) so I would just talk with people in class if I had questions about shit. I got invited to work on stuff in groups a lot because I did reasonably well and it was pretty helpful, especially since I didn't show up to class a lot. We talked about random campus-related shit all the time too, so I got invited to hang out pretty often or to parties at their frats/apartments when they were having them.

I would recommend doing this even if you don't have problems making friends. At least in my major 95% of the people were doing this even though it was discouraged, so even though I would score in a really high percentile on tests it was basically impossible to compete with people getting near perfect grades on HW without having to spend any time struggling to find information. Another thing is like someone else said, if you made some small talk at the beginning of class it's not weird at all to ask them what they're doing after and hang out for lunch.

Actually a good idea; I was thinking of doing a private blog.
I went out a lot; not as much anymore but have a lot of pictures and know how to tell a story.
People think I'm always making shit up, until I show them photos.
Learn to be a good story teller; I'm working on that art, you can make anything as mundane as waiting in line, be entertaining if you have a flow of direction and passion.
I even made up a story of why I wear my broken watch, in memory of my grandfather who got it from his and his, to the time of the Incas.
maybe /lit/ has tips on this?

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I once just kind of joked about how I didnt understand class material, girl sitting next to me said just work at it, read the textbook, i said thanks, whats your name, and it rolled on from there

This.
If you are too interesting, crabs in bucket mentality.
I stopped caring though, lost some "friends" but gained others.
I have the same interests in you, with added theology , I can talk forever on religion and absolute truth.
If you say too much, people think you gloat, if you say too little people will assume you think you are better than them.
Road of self-improvement is self driven.

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