Thanks senpai
I'm skeptical on dating advice guys and behavior science but I'll check it out in my free time since you recommended it.
I do NoFap because I'm a serious porn addict, it's the number one cause of my anxiety goes through the roof and my energy levels + motivation are crippled. I made it 40 days once and it did wonders so I'm playing serious with this.
social skills are skills, retard. You didn't practice when you were young so you are behind. You can catch up by exposing yourself to social situations and talking to people
this its not hard once you realize this.
Do something super simple say hello to 5 people and that's it. Then do it over and over again until you feel comfortable doing that. Then do something after that like asking how they are and build from there.
I'm pretty good at being likable and carrying conversation but that doesn't mean I don't have anxiety. My issue is that sometimes it comes out (especially when high or drunk) and people see my self pity. I'm aware of how repulsive it is but it just comes natural to me and I know my low self esteem is to blame.
On a side note, practicing MMA regularly has really helped me get more confident.
I see user. For me it was just a waste of time, but each to their own.
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Corey wayne is pretty good as far as dating advice goes
I can't carry a conversation. I can't even tell a story. How the fuck do i learn to talk? I'm at a strange place in my life where I should have learned how to do these things a long time ago like talking or approaching girls. No ever taught me or my parents discouraged it at a young age.
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Carrying a conversation can be quite easy if you stop thinking and calculating and start trying to have fun, learn about the other person, etc.
1. Have an interest in the other person. People LOVE talking about themselves and WILL spill their guts to you if you ask questions that reveal their character to you. This will make you seem thoughtful and trustworthy.
2. When talking about yourself, never self pity and seldom use jokes that target yourself. Looking weak will make people respect you less. Carry yourself well, be aggressive but tender, have good posture, project your voice, and be friendly. Conversation and attraction is tug-o-war, a push-pull dynamic with both sexes.
3. Stop being beta and cultivate confidence and self respect. Stop jerking off to porn for a start, working out regularly, pick up an athletic hobby (mma is great), go out more (when your friends ask you to hang out or go somewhere new, GO WITH THEM, DO NOT STAY HOME). These things will passively improve your character and image (to the self and to others)
While I have sharp spikes of anxiety/depression I have no problem talking to people, getting to know the,, and winning them over. It's because I'm transparent and friendly, without being a push over. Getting girls? That's beyond my full understanding heh heh. Hope I helped even a little
Self-deprecating humor will make you look stronger, not weaker if you are a respected individual without autism.