So I've never really posted on this site, but kinda in dire straights here so I'm ruling out no help. Not sure if this is the right board for this so I apologize if it's off brand.
Anyway, here's my problem: I was a regular consumer of porn until I got involved with this girl recently. I know it messes with your brain chemistry and libido and what you find attractive so I figured in the interest of the relationship I'd cut it out. Unfortunately, it had the opposite of the desired effect; I rarely get erections period anymore, I don't have a lot of drive, and the couple of times we've tried having sex I haven't been able to maintain an erection very long. Shit sucks. I was worried about permanent damage to my body until I read this article drgapin.com/porn-induced-erectile-dysfunction/. There isn't a crazy amount of science behind it, but the description of the effects of porn abstinence (what's believed to be the only effective fix for porn addiction) matches my experience pretty well, and just overall makes a lot of sense. To save you the time reading it, after you abstain cold turkey from porn the article says you "flatline" for a bit, losing interest in sex and women overall, and it takes a couple weeks before you regain a healthy sexual appetite (This time for 3D sexual situations).
The complication here is that we're both about to go to college (I'm 18 with dick problems how sad is that lol) and I'd really like to have sex with her before we go and she's getting frustrated. I was just wondering if any of y'all had an effective short term fix for this. Should I just relapse a but and watch porn again to get some sort of fake vigor to do the job before I go?
Sorry to dump this longwinded post on your gay powerlifting board, but any advice is really appreciated.
I can I identify with this a lot. I am in a 12-step fellowship for porn addiction (SCA) I can also recommend SAA and SLAA but don't go to SA, they are conservative fundamentalists. I'm really sorry to hear you are going through this, but there is hope.
Kevin Jackson
I appreciate it, brother. Good luck
Christian Brooks
Kamagra for short term solution, NoPorn long term.
Cooper Diaz
Does she know you struggled with porn addiction?
Anthony Ortiz
I could always fuck when I was a porn addict but I couldn't cum from sex until I did NoFap. Honestly I think this is the usual situation for nonChads in 2018, probably the majority of young White and Asian men.
Christopher Campbell
i had ed for years and took cialias, probably hard to get get as an 18 yr old tho =[ just remember your worth man sex doesnt make u, and u will get over this and have fulfilling future sexual relations if this one doesnt quite work out. Are you exchanging oral sex? That usually helped me get over some of the performance anxiety, if I made her cum and she was sucking my cock
Andrew Ortiz
Similar situation here bruh 18 with dick issues I've gone cold turkey on porn for a good 6 months but that hasn't changed anything hope it gets better for you and any advice is appreciated
Brody James
It can be mental as well, ie. performance anxiety
Grayson Sullivan
Looking into this now, thanks
Nah I've mentioned porn being an issue for guys overall and how I decided to stop but if I fuck it up again I'll prolly give 5he full explanation
Thanks man. Yeah she's sucked my dick and that's all that's really done anything for me so far, but the transition to condom sex and the lack of sensitivity frm that always kills it pretty quickly
Same to you, keep it up (literally)
Matthew Morris
No joke buds but is it possible you experienced any kind of sexual trauma when you where young? Not even molestation, just anything that could make consensual heterosexual sex unappealing? Porn wouldn't do it unless you where watching some intensely fucked up shit from a young age
John Richardson
Holy shit I have the same problem Dick problems at 19....fuck me
James Roberts
Put Jalapeno sauce on finger and insert it in anus before fucking. Source: comedy movie
Carter Jenkins
Op here, and nah lol. I was low confidence and kinda autistic for a long time so no real sexual experience before this, and the porn I was into for a couple years wasn't horrific but it's also bad enough that I haven't even mentioned it to close friends (we've had conversations concerning the dangers of porn consumption in the past). I think it's a combination of performance anxiety and my brain adjusting to normal sexual situations
Julian Lewis
Ya me neither no fucked up shit ever happened not even bad experiences just got nervous I think once had have been worried about it ever since and I think because I worry about it it causes issues
Ayden Butler
I feel this
Jayden Robinson
You're equating sex with fear and humiliation. Sometimes this is the result of childhood trauma but that's not always the case. The porn could be feeding into those feelings but it's not causing it. I'd honestly see a therapist if I where you guys.
Brayden Thompson
Does it stop with sexual impotence or do you have social anxiety in non sexual situations also? Are you afraid of humiliating yourself when talking to people or feel like you're having a bad social interaction even if the person isn't indicating that with what they're doing?
Nathaniel Harris
Get a prescription for cialis, that's the short term fix. Don't be a bitch loke "hurr i am too young for pills". You have a problem, that's the short term fix. You're also going to work on the long-term fix.
Good luck
Dylan Howard
Go to your fucking doctor dude. Tell her about your ED and request a blood test to check your T levels.
bruh u got death grip, just do no fap for a week~month and you should be allright, also get some cardio in.
Ryan Johnson
I mean I do experience that, I have a tendency to get inside my head and over think stuff, self scrutinize and whatnot, but I really doubt it's on a clinical level. Like I wouldn't be bold enough to self diagnose with anxiety
William Ramirez
Thank you both. I'm leaving tomorrow and won't see her for at least 3 weeks, if im still experiencing these problems then, Im definetly getting my busted ass checked out lol, but the times just not there for right now
Asher Morgan
It's all psychological. Watch the porn and don't fap. Don't wind yourself up to much or get too nervous around her. If you stop worrying you'll get boners again.
