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will racists please leave this board

He's taking you to the gym with him, he's not going to cheat on you.

Arguably, fitness is important to him and he wants to share that with you, I understand that you have that sense of insecurity as if hes enjoying the attention (he probably is, who wouldn't) but he's not going to act on it if he truly likes you.

Also I don’t get upset every time it happens. Only some days where i’m already dealing with insecurities and I notice him doing it, it’s just hard to ignore. But I do focus on myself and just try to better myself because at the end of the day it matters what I think about myself... but like I said I make so many sacrifices for him already and it’s just fucking annoying seeing it happen right in front of me

Women in yoga pants are distracting, if it's really an issue tell him, talk to him about it person to person, just be reasonable, tell him it's ok if he does look as a reaction/instinct, but sustained staring at asses is over the line. Use the wife checking out hot dudes line if you want, make the situation equivalent.

>I understand that guys obviously have a harder time controlling themselves
This is false, men and women are the same in this regard. SOunds like you don't respect men as equals to women, which is probably the basis of your entire insecurity. Once you can truly respect men for what they are and how they act naturally, you won't solve this problem.

I was just basing that opinion off of almost every response from a guy on this thread. I think guys just have more excuses for their actions therefore they appear to not have as much self control. I didn’t say women don’t do the same though.

She said she's not worried about him hitting on them.

Also, this isn't when you use tits or gtfo you retard.

I don't know if you're still here OP but I'll reply with my own experiences

I'm a 23 year old male and I've been with the same girl since I was 19. I love her with all of my heart and we've got a great relationship.

That being said, I check out other women. It's hard not to notice or admire attractive people. I'm sure you've checked out guys despite being in a relationship. There's nothing wrong with it unless you act on it. However doing it in front of your partner, especially if you're not hiding it, is just clearly disrespectful.

I'd have a conversation with him and let him know that you don't appreciate seeing him checking out other people in front of you. I think demanding that he never looks at other women is a step too far, but lay out clear boundaries. You can look but don't look too long, and don't do it in front of me. You need to rein him in a little, but you need to first understand that not all instances of checking someone out is with ill intent

Good luck to you

Look, don't bring your gf to the gym it freaks out the other guys.

Also I think it’s sad that men just use the excuse that women are distracting and hard to look away from. Just because there’s some fucking sexy man whore giving me attention or looking at me doesn’t mean I feed into it by doing the same right back when I’m married. What kind of message does that send? That i’m not happily married. That’s why it pisses me off to see my husband do it. It sends the message that he’s not happily married and that he would rather gain the attention of other females than ignore them and not stare at them