Is any of the japanese anons around an actual hikikomori or has gone through a phase like that?
Also, people from other countries, if you've ever gone through a social-withdrawal phase, share your experience.
I went through it a couple of years back. I played massive online videogames 24/7, hardly slept at all, ate nothing but junk foods, you name it... I'm better now, but, man, it is hard to deal with everyday life and people's expectations, that's for sure...
Yes
what mmo did you play?
yes
at 11 years old i first became a complete shut-in, quit school after years of being bullied/harrassed, molested, stolen from, got diagnosed with depression and anxiety
from then on it's been on and off
i found solace in the Internet, books, games, art, etcetera, but mostly sleeping
Perfect World. I think it still exist. It was free back then, and it was the first MMO I ever played. Beautiful, but very strict as of the skill point system. I dedicated most of my skill points to Strength when I should have done Health and Endurance LOL
>quit school after years of being bullied/harrassed, molested, stolen from, got diagnosed with depression and anxiety
you doing better these days?
Well, I have no friends at the moment, I have no one in my contacts except very close family (sistesr+parents). I play LoL and browse Jow Forums 12-16 hours a day at the moment and have been doing so for 3 years. Before that I went to highschool but immediately ran home asap to play vidya again. I'm completely used to being alone now tbf. It's really funny when people say "i haven't went outside in 3 days" or "i haven't spoken to anyone in 2 days" because for me i sometimes don't go outside for 2-3 weeks (until i have to go to grocery store or something) and i haven't spoken to anyone my age in years.
Portugal is one of the few western countries I feel I know nothing of. Not economy, not history, no nothing, to be honest.
Leaving that aside, I hope you doing good, stay good and get better portug-user
no
im portuguese and i dont know anything about it either
we're pretty irrelevant
Thank you
> I have no friends at the moment
Reminded me of a british movie I saw some time ago called The Full Monty. There is a character that says the exact same thing to guys he just met, and one of them say, What you mean, you do have friends, us :)
If your age exceeds "young" according to Belgium's standards I cannot really tell for sure, but Belgium has a strong economy all together, you should probably give job/uni another shot and aim for being independent, healthy and happy, even if your only communicate with friends over the internet (It's actually better that way, to be quite honest)
Everyone on here should probably watch these movies:
> The Full Monty
> Fight Club (1999)
> Watchmen (Zack Snyder, 2009)
They all deal with being a man today and finding little to no purpose in belonging and working to be a productive part of society. No hikikomori themes, though. For that I'd recommend the manga/anime
> Welcome to NHK
Manga/movies/documentaries have that special power that basically every computer, sciences and arts have: They are a direct representation of your imagination.
You need to exchange words with others, and sooner or later you will come across an idea/recommendation that just may lead you to begin a new chapter in your life and get better.
Fight Club did change my life in a long-term kind of way. There is so much wisdom in it, specially in the phrase You can't expect the next thing you buy to make you happy... most people, specially young people need to hear that phrase, often if possible, don't you agree?
I left school for two years and finished at 20 years old. I was an unironically neet during those two years. I currently have a job in which I have almost no social contact. The only people I talk with often are my family, but I think that's because I live with them. I don't work so many hours, so in my freetime I play videogames, spend time on the internet and take care of my pets. There was a time I was so depressive that I could spend weeks without taking a shower. Adult life is toxic.
I don't own any pets, but I do watch a lot of cat videos/pics on the internet.
I don't think owning pets is a good thing if you want to go from neet to normal socially-active person... Pets are nice and cool to be around, yes, they don't judge or insult, BUT that same perk bring you a problem that most neets with pets don't seem to notice: Since pets are animals with low hygiene and social-interaction standards, they will never tell you You need a shower, or You shouldn't make that kind of comments/jokes around people... Pets are an easy solution to loneliness, and that is why we tend to prefer them over other people. I'm not saying you should send them away, but you have to avoid becoming dependent of them just to get company and leave the human socialization aside
Yeah, my family is used to having lots of animals in the house since I have memory, but It's true that lately I have become a bit dependent.
Yeah, left school and spent 3 years not leaving my room except for 6 months where I had a job and developed a drinking habit from the wages to deal with it, then haven't really leave it again since then and that was 5 years ago I guess
Was a NEET for 4 years at one point, feel like career wise I'm behind everyone the same age as me since I messed about for those four years.
Ireland is such a beautiful country... I'll never understand why people in such an amazing place drink so much. Drinking is a terrible habit, dude. It makes your life worse with every single drop you drink. Specially if you do it alone. Drinking with people is no better. The fun part of being with people is enjoying their company and HEALTHY activities like sharing knowledge, working out, doing sports, creating arts, music, singing, learning new languages... if you drink while being with people you associate alcohol itself with the good feelings of company. It makes you dependent on something that requires little effort to get. You have to despite what is free or cheap and praise what is obtained with sacrifice and hard work. Other people's appreciating and company, for example.
You have to lay off alcohol and any other substance consuming habit first, then, go out and find people you can share HEALTHY activities with.
Age means little if you are ahead in terms of maturity and knowledge. Learn a new language and/or master a skill better than anyone around you and you'll shine, my dude.
Learning a new language should be a priority. It multiplies your value because it allows you to share your knowledge with millions of additional peoples. That's the main reason why I decided to learn english - now I just gotta find some knowledge to share with others lol xD
Also watch
> Meet Bill (2007, starring Aaron Eckhart)
and
> American Beautify (2000, starring Kevin Spacy)
I'm in a somewhat similar situation due to a helicopter parent who's emotionally abusive at times. Not full hikki at all, but partially.
Am going to university this year though, where all people will be new. Anyone for tips for making a successful, social student life?
I was NEET two years ago when I dropped out of college, all I did daily was watch anime and shitpost here
Complete shut-in here and have been one for about 7 years now. Due to depression and various other factors, my progress in uni was slow and it made me embarrassed to talk to my old high school friends, so I pushed them all away. I also had a few online friends, but they'd also occasionally ask me about real life, so I cut them off too. Nowadays I'm better off, but still have literally zero friends and only talk to family.
I'm honestly kinda used to not having friends now and it's not bad as long as I can drop by this site and shitpost a bit every now and then, but I'd like to at least find a few online friends at some point. And of course, I'd also like to find a significant other I can settle and grow old together with, but I'm not keeping my hopes up too high.
>starring Kevin Spacey
that movie makes so much more sense now
Do you love Japan?
Id be your friend user
how are you going to find a significant other if you never talk to anyone except for your parents and randos on Jow Forums?